Years ago I was told by my mother never to wear black to a wedding. However, in late 2004 I went to a wedding and the bridemaids were all wearing black dresses. What is the proper thing to do? If I can wear black I will. Most women have that black dress that make the rolls not so rolly and the pudge not so pudgey. After having the kids I need whatever I can to make me look a little slimmer here, there and everywhere. According to a about.com expert it depend on the time of day, and location. Well, I still am unsure.